1 Corinthians 13: 1 & 13

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

4 December 2012

News Sharing --Compensated Dating (6A To Ka Chung)

(A)  Summary

Ah Yan, a girl who has been participating in compensating dating for 9 months, accepted money or gifts from men in exchange for companionship which usually involves sex. It was lucky that Yan’s clients treated her quite polite but some other girls might not. Some of them were struck by violent companion while some were blackmailed because of their video about sex. These are the pieces of  evidence to justify that compensated dating is detrimental to the mental and physical development of teenagers because they have no competence to ward the vigorous patrons off and will feel nervous and frightened when they are threatened by strangers.

(B)  Comments

Ah Yan’s case demonstrates that compensated dating is more serious. It is not uncommon to see young girls seeking patrons on the Internet forums. It seems to be alarming and parents should be aware of it. Therefore, I am going to express my views about compensated dating and the consequences of engaging ourselves in this kind of relationship.

First of all, tremendous risks can be triggered during compensated dating. Young girls may be struck by violent clients because they have nothing to ward off. Also, they may be blackmailed because they do not want to reveal their companionship. This illustrates that maintaining relationship with strangers is detrimental to young girls who do not have any working experience of working. Therefore, young girls are cheated by the strangers easily. We cannot deny that security is important for the healthy growth of young girls and compensated dating obviously falls short of it.

Depart from the security of the young girls, relationship between parents may also be affected by compensated dating. When a young girl goes on a compensated dating, she may escape from talking to parents because companionship with strangers may be revealed during the conversation. As a result, the opportunity of knowing more about each other decreases since talking is one of the communications and thus widen the gap between parents and the young girl. It is ridiculous to say that teenagers can grow healthily without parental care and compensated dating is not an exception.

In conclusion, compensated dating is harmful to our mental and physical health. Besides, relationship among parents and teenagers will be harmed if the children go on compensated dating. It is everybody’s business to teach teenagers for fostering a healthy community, so I sincerely hope that more advertisements can be made to show teenagers the consequences of compensated dating.