1 Corinthians 13: 1 & 13

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

26 October 2012

Letter to the Editor – Causes of Compensated Dating (6D Lam Man Tao)

Dear editor,

I am the reader of your newspaper. After reading the article named ‘Compensated dating tactics change’ published on 2nd April, I would like to share my opinion on the causes of compensated dating and suggest ways to tackle the problem.

There is an astonishing increase of young lady to go on compensated dates, referring to the poll conducted by a local organization. This is a serious social problem as this is an immoral commercial activity. The following are the causes I suggest for girls to go on compensated dates.

Firstly, those girls want to earn money. Compensated dating refers to the girls being paid to go on dates that often involve sex. Certainly, those girls want to earn money. It is because the girls may come from low-income families facing the problem of poverty. In addition, some girls want to buy luxury goods in order to raise their self-confidence and to feel fulfilled. Therefore, those girls go on to compensated dating may want to earn money.

Secondly, the girls are facing problems. This is the under-lying reason for them to go on to compensated dates. The problems they face could be the bad relationships between them and their family. This leads to them to go on to compensated dates as they want to show they have already had the ability to earn money and hence their parents have no more control on them. Another problem they face could be they want to get attention from the peers. These show the troubles they are facing to lead them to go on to compensated dating.

Compensated dating is related to the moral values of teens and even the next generations. What is more the social atmosphere is affected if this phenomenon continues. We should stop it immediately via these solutions:

Providing counseling services. Most importantly, the girls go on to compensated dating to obtain suitable helps for them. More ways should be provided for those girls to get helps. On the other hand, social workers can go to search those girls actively to give them helps such as to chat with them. This helps social workers to know what they really need and hence help them to quit compensated dating.

The government should put some more resources on education. Schools need more resources to educate students the bad impacts of going on to compensated dating and raise their awareness. Furthermore, educating public through commercials promotions are needed. This raises public knowledge on this issues and also preventing the girls to go on to compensated dating and therefore this is the long-term measure but is the most effective way to solve the problem in the future.
 
The cops should strictly monitor the activity of compensated dating on the internet. Those girls usually look for clients on the internet. Occasionally, they find clients on the online game chat rooms, according to the results of a survey conducted by the DAB. This shows compensated dating depends on internet. In order to stop doing this, the police should strictly govern it. This threatens the girls and their clients and this helps to reduce the occurrence of compensated dating.

To conclude, the problem of compensated dating is extremely serious. We must stop it now. Otherwise the problem will get worse.
 
Yours faithfully,
Pat Chan